What truly anchors your relationship? Beyond the day-to-day, what shared beliefs act as your compass? Identifying the core values you hold together—perhaps honesty, adventure, family, resilience, humor, mutual support—can lend incredible depth and resonance to your vows.
These values are the invisible threads that weave your lives together. Bringing them into the light makes your promises profoundly personal.
Connecting Promises to Principles:
- Reflect on Peak Moments: When have you felt most connected, joyful, or proud as a couple? What underlying values did those moments illuminate?
- Consider Conflict & Resolution: How do you navigate disagreements? What shared principles guide how you find your way back to each other?
- Look to the Future: What shared dreams (building a home, exploring the world, supporting each other's passions) are rooted in which values?
- Name Them: Try to articulate 3-5 core values that feel essential to your partnership.
Weave these into your vows, not as abstract concepts, but through specific examples or direct promises. Instead of just saying 'I promise to be supportive,' you might say, 'I promise to champion your dreams, celebrating every victory, big or small, because your courage inspires my own.' Let your vows echo the unique heartbeat of your shared beliefs.